When you’re growing up it’s easy to make friends. You meet kids at school or sports and it’s easy to make seemingly lasting friendships. But no on tells you how to make friends as an adult. I have been out on my own for almost a year now and it’s been crazy difficult trying to make a solid group of adult friends. Disney Channel didn’t prepare me for this.
After graduation last year I went home to live with my parents for six months. I needed to save up money before moving to a large city, and it was a nice adjustment period into adulthood. I had work and projects at home, and I thought that when I moved to Chicago I would meet so many people and have so many friends. So technically that’s true. I’ve met a lot of people through work and improv classes, but I don’t have that core group of friends I had during my school years.
No one explains to you how to make friends as an adult. Sure you make friends through work, but my work wasn’t exactly my life’s calling. And yes I have friends from college that live here, but we’re not exactly a huge friend group, but we do hang out. Long story short, this has been a weird transitional time.
I feel like the last year and a half has been a transitional time and it’s uncomfortable. Why didn’t anyone tell me how weird it was after college? People say that college will be the best four years of your life. What they don’t tell you is how hard and weird it is to transition into your adult life.
Maybe I’ll just chalk it up to being new to the city or new to being an adult. But why is this so hard? I’ve talked to other friends and they said it was this way for them to. My question to that is why? Why is it so hard? Why doesn’t anyone prepare you for this?
Why isn’t there a college course that gives you tips on how to do this? I need a college course in “How to be An Adult 101.” This course will guide you into transitioning into a self-sufficient adult. Seriously if anyone wants to take this idea and run with it, I give you full permission. Actually I beg that someone does this. Teach college seniors how to adult, please!
So I guess this is me complaining as well as asking for ideas. How do you do this? Or am I just being impatient and it takes time? Will being an adult ever get easier? In either case, making friends as an adult is weird and they really should tell you how to do this better.